Another good night of sleep although I could have used a few more hours but the sleep was deep and peaceful. It must have something to do with my new bedding. No offense, but your minimalist decor did not inspire sweet dreams, but I know why it was important to keep the bed stripped of everything but pillows, the fitted sheet and a light cover.
Just recently I discovered that my friend James and I are both up early and with that first cup of coffee we have been chatting into the day. We are on the phone until we run out of steam. I know you don’t get that but it works for me- it cuts into the sad silence that I need to fill. We love talking theater, especially now, as he moves his cast along in the rehearsal process. You know I love that subject even if I’ve moved away from my own stage work. So good to have history with him.
Another new ritual-no more daily newspapers on the table. As Ron and Ami begin to make sense of your finances, I recommended that we stop delivery of the NY Times weekday papers. It makes it easier when I’m not here to avoid a build up of papers in the driveway. Honestly, I didn’t read the real paper much during the week. I’m so much more comfortable reading on my Iphone. I still get the real paper on weekends, of course but if you’re not seeing across from me with your cup of light coffee and the paper, it’s not the same without you.
Yesterday I paid a shiva visit to Agita, one of my buds from our New Paltz supervisors club. She just lost her husband after 6 year of colon/rectal cancer where she was the solo caregiver. I can’t imagine that for either of them, or for us. You and I were so blessed to have 20 years of romance almost illness free.
Agita was not able to come here for our shiva but she was happy to see me and we sat together and I was quiet, following the procedure of allowing the mourner to speak about her loss or anything else. If felt so good to give back something after the outpouring of support I’ve experienced in that since you left. I can’t wait to see her again with our group at Cosimos in Newburgh.
It’s so good to be a member of these wonderful communities.
There could be some rain today, but the weather continues to allow for sandals and transitional clothes. I am scheduled for a dentist appointment, an Apple session and maybe even a stint at the garage at the bottom of my hill to get my car registered on time, and finally a walk with Tara and Sophie, the dog.
New rituals yes, but always missing the old ones like the 1st Democratic debate. The two living room chairs moved close to the screen, side-side. Instead, I’ll probably be comfortable in the LazyBoy cacoon. Just say the word and the chairs will be set for us.
Miss you T., tonight and every night,